Friday, May 4, 2018

The Ridonks Bond

I've always had a great horse sense for people. My first impression of someone typically proves accurate over time, but not always. And when it doesn't, the person usually turns out to be better than I expected, not worse.

People talk a lot about "love at first sight" in the romantic context, but no one ever really explores the more platonic "holy shit, this is my people" moment. That moment you can have with a new friend--someone who isn't your friend yet--but who in a split second you suddenly realize will be. 

And if we're being honest, it's usually because you both detest the same people or things. 

Take law school, for example. Law school was pretty much wall-to-wall douche bags. Like the ratio was 10:1 douche to non-douche. But the non-douches were SO GREAT, and the reason they cleaved to each other so closely, was because they hated everyone else.

Now look: douchery is subjective and in the eye of the beholder. I recognize that. For all I know, I could THINK I was in the 10% non-douche category, but in fact I was the douche, and everyone else wasn't. It's all rather meta. Point is, birds of a feather flock together in this respect.

Here's an example: There was a woman in my 1L section (meaning we had every class together) named Michelle. She was a shameless loudmouth, and my first impression of her was that she was insufferable and obnoxious. But then one day we were in the elevator, and I overheard an "I was a sorority girl six months ago" type woman say, "I don't like my labor law professor. He's so pro-YOOOOONION, and I'm pro-MAAAAAAAANAGEMENT." 

Michelle was in the elevator at the time and we locked eyes and they widened in unison. We had this electric, silent communication of HOLY SHIT DID SHE JUST SAY THAT?! AND WAIT . . . YOU THINK THIS IS HORRIBLE TOO OH YAY SO DO I WE ARE GOING TO BE FRIENDS FOREVER.

Fast forward almost 20 years, and Michelle is literally in my will as one of the guardians for my kids if Geoff and I die in a fire or something. And it's all because we think the same people and things are fucking ridonks. 

Seriously, think about it. You KNOW you want to send this post to that person you've been friends with forever simply because you bonded over someone else's crazy.

No comments:

Post a Comment

Note: Only a member of this blog may post a comment.