Saturday, February 28, 2015

Dick Moves and Deal Breakers

A good friend of mine recently went out on a date with someone who parked in a handicapped parking spot without actually being disabled/having a handicapped parking permit. My friend concluded that this was pretty much a deal breaker, and I agreed 100%.

Then I spent a long time lying awake, thinking about why.

It's not a huge deal, necessarily, in and of itself. But what does a small dick move like this say about a person's character?

Quite a bit, in my opinion.

For one thing, it says that the person doesn't think society's rules apply to them. We'd all like the convenience of parking in the spot closest to the door, but most of us don't do that.


Because those spots are supposed to be left vacant in case someone comes along who really needs them, and if every able-bodied person who feels like it decides to park in them, the entire concept of those spots' availability falls apart.

Will that happen during your two hour date? Probably not. But what's so special about you, that you, in particular, don't have to obey the social compact of leaving those spots alone?

Answer: Nothing.

So, the second thing this little dick move says is that you're a very entitled person. You feel entitled to a benefit to which you're not, actually, remotely entitled, and you don't really give a shit if someone in a wheelchair comes along who actually IS, legally, entitled to that spot.


You're perfectly happy to gamble your own convenience against the (albeit likely remote) possibility that an actually disabled person will come along and experience a major hassle because of your selfishness and entitlement.

And if this kind of thing is cool with you, what other dick moves do you have up your sleeve?

I concluded that the tiniest things like this are often the most revelatory. If you're in the process of evaluating or learning about a person's character, little dick moves like this can be absolute gold for determining whether this is a person you can bear to spend another hour with.

Chances are if you're the kind of person who thinks conduct like this is 100 levels of lame, the other person is kind of a waste of your time. Because even though the dick move is small, it's pretty much a deal breaker statement on character.

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